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How common is this in the church?
I am new here and I am an individual that has struggled with masturbation and cybersex. Probably a little light weight compared to the regulars that post here and I am not going to lie I still feel pretty guilty about this stuff and I am still going to try and stop. Fortunatly other than my online indiscretions and my masturbation I have not done anything else. I was recently on myspace checking out profiles of adult women when I decided to check out LDS women. Out of curiosity I decided browse for swingers and bisexual lds women. Well I found plenty of profiles. Not a ton but still plenty. Now in the past I have always been turned on by these kind of women on various websites but these women were always non LDS. Well when the LDS women came up I did not feel turned on. Instead when I read some of the profiles I felt disappointment and shock. Now I am not an idiot, I know these kind of things go on in the church but I have told myself that this was always an extreme minority that was either mostly or completely inactive and in no way represented the average member. I still believe this a minority but what I have read about on here and some other places I have seen have quite frankly disturbed me. I suppose I find it disturbing because it happens among active members and to me I have always looked up to active members and I assumed if someone did have a sexual indiscretion it was more of a passion of the moment thing and not a lifestyle choice at least for active members. I know active members aren't perfect and they sin just like everybody else but I always assumed that they made an honest effort and despite my own struggles with this I have always looked up to active members as worthy examples (especialy priesthood leaders, sunday school teachers etc...) I should also note that at times because of this I have been semi active at times (such as skipping church or only attending part of the services) but I have always felt what I have done is wrong enough to not take the sacrament. Not to mention I have maintained a low profile in my ward and I have all but stopped hometeaching because I remember on my mission it was made very clear to us that if we did not have the spirit we should not teach. The disturbing thing I have read on here and other sites are there are active with fairly high profile callings that secretly swing and engage in other activities. What I want to know since some of you are in the "know" so to speak is how common this is in the church. I would especialy like to hear from active members or semi active members. I hope I did not come off as offensive to anybody but I felt I needed to make my concerns known. I would also appreciate any knowledge of how much this kind of thing goes on. How common is it in your respective wards? Like I said no offense intended but I hope most of you are outliers and not the "norm". Also don't want to come off as a hypocrite since I have not been exactly virtuous in this area but I am still bothered by my own behavior as well. |
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first off id like to welcome you and do note your concerns, im my belief it is still a very small amount of "members" who make this a life style choice, whild others from time to time slip and have indescresions. you said you look at other sites of lds women would you care to say what those sites are? dont feel ashamed we all from time to time stumbel some like it and continue others dont and get back uo and procede in another course, but remember none of us judge the other we all accept each orther as we are. | ||
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Just myspace (I know there are plenty of fake profiles on myspace but I think at least some of them I saw seemed pretty legit) and some forums that I googled when this thing started to bother me. I think the swinger thing bugs me the most for some reason. | ||
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Also don't get me wrong, I am not trying to be judgmental of anyone here but I can't help but think of people I have known in the church over the years and wonder if they had been leading a "double life" so to speak. | ||
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Welcome to our group. I can understand the shock and excitement you felt when you found us here on Dating Devil. Most of our conversations are just that, conversations. The MNM room has maintained to be a place without the "come fuck me" proposals. Just enjoy and participate. Offense is not what happens here in the MNM room. We all have our reasons for being here. Some of us are here for similar reasons. At a younger age I too had a great deal of guilt built up inside because of my sexual indiscretions. Once to the point where I visited the Bishop and ended up in the Bishops court where a disfellowship was handed down to me and my then wife. All for what was much less than being a member here on Dating Devil. Back then they got into your bedroom (so to speak) and told you what you can't do with each other in your own home. Many men live the "married in the temple" life and continue to self pleasure when the partner is not available or unwilling to give. That is the most common among the married mormon men who are on Dating Devil or another site. All young women are taught to be virtuous and that is heavily carried into many marriages where they can't let go within the bounds of their own marriage. I think that is the most common reason mormon men are here. I can't peak for the women but I know there are mormon men who don't allow their wives to enjoy the full excitement of sex orgasm which leads many wives to wander and look for something else. come back and visit often. Just be sure to use the InPrivate browser. You will thank me later! lol You can shoot but I like to expose | ||
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tell me more about this inprivate browser? | ||
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Did you get the message I sent back? Im not sure it was replied back to you. I cant find it in my message area. You can shoot but I like to expose |
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